Today I overheard two partners having a
discussion, and I saw within myself that by the tonalities of their voices and the phrasing of the
statements made, I defined this as a ‘conflict’, and I saw within myself the thought come up that 'I don’t like conflict’ within a relationship, I don’t like to be in a situation
of conflict with my partner, but what it is that I actually don’t like or want
to avoid, is how I experience myself in such a situation where I perceive there
is a ‘conflict’. And thus, there isn’t actually even a conflict, but only a perception
of conflict, as it is me that is living ‘conflict’ as myself, within how I’ve
defined a certain situation, wherein I feel like I am being attacked/not
considered, within this projecting onto another that they are not considering
me, while I then do the same thing, because ‘if they are not considering me,
then I must consider myself’ and within this I am thus only considering myself,
and not considering them as well, as I’ve gone into a reaction of defense. Where
defense is actually where one separate oneself from another.
Thus perhaps one’s partner may be
perceiving and living the same thing in the same moment, but that doesn’t
matter because it still does not make it real, it only shows how we act to keep
each other within the same patterns of perception/reaction/behavior by
participating in and accepting as normal the very same patterns of behavior,
and it still only exists as a perception and a pattern of behavior that we live
according to our perception of a situation and the relationship that we’ve
formed to being in such a situation, that we’ve defined as ‘conflict’, as
certain tonalities, body movements/mannerisms, certain phrasings/statements,
events, behaviors, language.
And it is up to me to not live as this
pattern reaction to situations of conflict, as if I wait for another to change,
then it may never happen, it doesn’t matter if another is living it as well, that
has nothing to do with me stopping myself, and what does it imply if who I am
is dependent on who others are and what others live as? That I actually do not
then exist, as my behavior is simply the copy/clone of those I see around me in
my world/reality. And what is the consequence that I allow to manifest if/when
I allow my behavior to be determined by other’s behavior? That no one ever
change, as we’ll all simply keep mirroring each other, and thus none of us
actually exist, as we’re all just mirroring each other’s patterns of behavior,
as the particular characters we’re living as. As long as I am living it, I am
living the example and validating such behavior for others as well, and thus
until I change the example I am living, I am only supporting others to stay the
same, supporting them to accept the same pattern of behavior as who they are
and as how to live and to not see/consider/realize/apply another way.
Thus, I commit myself to investigate myself
and the reaction/relationship I have toward ‘conflict’, to
see/understand/realize how it is that I live ‘conflict’ and actually create and
manifest ‘conflict’, when there in fact is none.
What’s cool about observing this moment
where others were interacting, and seeing this relationship within myself, is
that here I have an opportunity to see what relationships exist within me, so
that I can look at how I would react if/when this situation were to come up,
before it comes up, and see the consequence I would manifest according to how I
would react in such situation, and thus giving me an opportunity to place a
correction that I would rather walk if/when I find myself in such a situation.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and
allowed myself to form a relationship toward ‘conflict’, wherein I have
programmed myself to react a certain way toward conflict which I experience as
a ‘negative’ or ‘unpleasant’ experience, and then seek to avoid conflict as I
am really trying/attempting to avoid how I experience myself in such situation.
Thus, I commit myself to investigating and
uncovering my relationship toward ‘conflict’, so that I can understand how I create
conflict as myself, within this realizing that the character I have formed
toward ‘conflict’ as the ‘I don’t like conflict and thus want to avoid
conflict’ character is really me avoiding how I experience myself within/toward
conflict according to the relationship that I formed toward situations I
perceive as ‘conflict’.
I commit myself to realizing that I create
the experience of conflict within myself, as the ‘I am now in a situation of
conflict’ character and then the ‘I must defend myself’ character as but one of
the characters I’ve formed in reaction to conflict, as a way of
trying/attempting to avoid/cope with how I experience myself within ‘conflict’.
I realize that the conflict that exist in
the world, we create through living it as ourselves into reality, and that we
are really only defending ourselves from ourselves, as we are all the same
substance here, equal in form and need, and if we had formed this world from
the starting point of considering all life equal and what is best for all life,
the conflict would not exist.
I commit myself to doing whatever it takes
to stop manifesting a world of conflict, within firstly investigating where/how
I live as and manifest the conflict in this world, to stand as an example to
all in that it is possible to live another way without creating unnecessary
conflict, and within this I commit myself to doing what I can to participate in
the creation and implementation of an Equal Money System, to end the current
conflict based Capitalist system, which creates conflict by placing us within a
situation where not all are provided for and thus conflict between individuals
in created, when it is totally unnecessary, as we live in a world of plenty
where all can be provided for without conflict, and that would obviously be the
best world to live in, for myself and the children to come.
I forgive myself that I have accepted and
allowed myself to not realize that by living as the character of ‘I don’t like
conflicts, I must avoid them’ and then trying to act in ways to avoid conflict,
that I sabotage my relationships, wherein I will then hold back and not say
certain things that I fear will cause conflict, and thus will accept and allow abuse
within relationships simply to avoid conflict, which will eventually cause the
relationship to fail, while allowing an abusive situation for both beings
involved.
I commit myself stop living as the ‘desire
to avoid conflict’ character, within the realization of the consequence I
create by attempting/trying to avoid conflict, and thus I commit myself to find
every way that I act to avoid conflict, and every character I form and
participate in in order to avoid/cope with ‘conflict’, so that I can stop living as a character and rather live as a real being that does not compromise
life, but supports life.
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