Day 211: Why Would We Want to Learn From each Other?

Now we're going to continue from the previous post, with looking at why it is that we would want to utilize the tool of 'seeing ourselves in others', why is this such an important tool and what do we do with points once we've found them in ourselves?

If you haven't yet read the previous posts on this topic, I would suggest to do so first for context:
Day 210: Can We See Truth of Ourselves in Others?
Day 209: Why Can't We See Ourselves?

So, here I'm going to get into first the 'why' this tool is so important, and why we would want to totally take advantage of it, because it is in fact a major key to Self Change, something that is so often seen as practically impossible to do. This perception is largely a result of that fact that we have such difficulty in really seeing ourselves, in the first place. Because how can you change that which you don't understand how it works? You really can't. You would even believe that it's impossible, because there just doesn't seem to be any way to change what is largely a mystery. I mean, for the most part, we really have no clue why we do what we do or think what we think, we're just acting out of habit.

Therefore, we have to get to understand ourselves and see ourselves in Self Honesty – that means, who we really are in each and every moment, who am I and what am I living? What is my actual nature? How long would it take for us to really see ourselves if we were alone? If we didn't have 'everyone else' around us to serve as mirrors to who we really are?

I mean, that is really what we should have been doing all along, is learning from each other. Learning what our impact is on others. Learning what appropriate behavior is toward each other and toward ourselves. Utilizing the examples we're living for each other to see the consequences of certain behaviors, actions and choices, to learn what works and what doesn't. What's cool and what's not in terms of living here in this physical reality and coexisting with each other, and all other life here.

Since we're all existing in separate physical forms, how would you know the consequence of your actions without having other beings to interact with to see the consequences of another's actions on you, so that you could learn first hand. So here we are on Earth to learn about consequence and how to live. After all this time being here, it's probably about time we started actually doing that, because, strangely we have been doing anything but.

We've become beings of blame who avoid responsibility in practically every way possible, that it's manifested into our world systems at large as well. For example, if you look at what government is functioning as, it's like we as a whole have tried to put all responsibility on the government to solve problems and made decisions, instead of what the government would be if we were all responsible beings, which would be serving to simply administrate the laws and functions we've decided on, not actually creating policies and changing laws, where essentially the government has been given the power to make decisions instead of all the people together.

We've become beings whose nature is so consequential that we can barely have lasting effective relationships and we become further and further more isolated from each other. Every possible malady we could have is ever increasing, from psychological disorders to diseases, and our participation in the world and community is often nil. We try to live our lives according to the system that is already laid out whether it's really working for us or not, and as a result most of us have to live difficult lives working most of the time to make ends meet.

So, obviously we've got a lot to change in ourselves, to change our nature and stop creating such consequences for ourselves, so we can sort out this reality and our living here and actually have an enjoyable living. We have everything we physically need to do so, so it's only now ourselves that's getting in the way.

And who we are affects us not only on a global/world scale, but on a very direct personal level, within our relationships and our day to day living. For most of us our lives and our relationships are not what we'd like them to be, for one reason or another, or many. So often we are so busy blaming others and everyone else for our experiences, we tend to neglect ever looking at ourself to find our responsibility and thus our power to change ourself, and from there change our world. Thus when we finally have a tool with which to begin to investigate ourselves, we open ourselves up to whole new possibilities to change our lives and living to what we would actually like. Because in getting to know ourselves, we unravel the mystery to how we create consequence in our lives and world, and through understanding, we gain the power to change ourselves, and thus change our lives.

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Day 190: What is Real Change?

Let's have a look at CHANGE – what is it, how does it work, what does it mean to really change, because – humanity sure likes to have ideals. Ideas and ideals and perceptions and conceptions of how things should be, but when it comes to our Actual Living – what happens? Do we apply that which we see is Ideal? Or does it remain a picture in our mind, of how things ought to be?

Can we have principles, but not live them? Can we claim to have principles, morals, standards, yet not actually live those standards, principles, morals? Do we pay Lip Service and talk about how things should be, could be, ought to be – and ‘forget’ to get down to the actual Living of it?

Isn’t it – we must Live the Change we want to See in the World? Wouldn’t that imply that we then, have to Change? Which would mean, that we would end up different than we are/have been, our living will be different, our experience will be different. So what do you know, if nothing is different – you are not Changing. And what do you know if you are not Changing? The World is Not going to Change. Why?

Because the World is made up of each and every one of us Individuals – that’s right – we don’t tend to give ourselves the real credit we’re due. It’s so easy to avoid our individual responsibility, because there are so many of us, we can just blame it on the group as a whole, and ignore our own Role as the Part we play, as a Participant in the Play of Life. And as each one go on Ignoring oneself, no one is thus Changing oneself, and thus, No One Change. The Accepted Nature of humanity Remain the Same, as it has always been.

So, the problem is that we can talk change and talk ideals, but what really matters is Changing our Living, and we have missed this point. How can you know? Because nothing in the world has changed, and the world is the reflection of ourselves and how we live, the values we accept and live by. Nothing in this world will change, until we change. Changing our very approach to how we live our lives, in each and every moment, with how we interact with our environment, other people, animals, the physical things in our world.

Most of this stuff we are hardly even aware of most of the time – because - a fascinating thing - the human is generally fixated on only itself, and only sees everything else in relation to itself. This is the CON of Consciousness, where you are in a private bubble that no one else enters, where you seem to be separate from everyone/everything else.

Yet missing the obvious – you Are Here. You are not separate and everything you do and are has an Impact on this Reality. And by believing that we exist within only our own personal experience, we cut ourself off from the rest of existence, to then only exist within the most limited way possible, in a made up realm within our mind, while all of the rest of existence is going on right around us and we’re excluding ourself from it. We settled for an Image-inary world in our mind instead of the Real world which is far more advanced and vast and is actually Physically Real.

So, the solution to this is to no longer I-so-late oneself, before it’s too late and you reach the end of the line, and to actually get to know and become a real participant in actual reality, in awareness. And awareness is not something that just happen, but will take a process of self application, to actually expand oneself to become More.

We’ll take a look at this in blogs to come, in just how do one become Aware? And what is the Benefits one stand to Gain by doing so, and the Problems that stem from our lack of Awareness that can be prevented, so we don’t have to experience our own CON-Sequence play-out in Space and Time.

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Day 86: Humanity has Relationship Problems

Here’s two examples that show that there is a serious problem with humanity, as how we’re existing and the relationships we have toward what is here, in this case, the animals. These are two cases of extreme abuse that was done to cats, one of the fellow life forms that exist on this planet with us: 

Cat forced to have leg amputated after yobs wrap an elastic band around it 

Full article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2188690/Cat-forced-leg-amputated-yobs-wrap-elastic-band-it.html#ixzz23lVBEySI 

Boy, eight, cooked neighbour’s cat in the microwave in front of horrified owner 

Full article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2188792/Boy-cooked-neighbour-s-cat-microwave-horrified-owner.html#ixzz23lUi67pm

This is obviously not how you treat other beings, it’s not what you’d do to yourself, or want done to yourself, and this shows that mis-education has/is taking place, that we’re creating humans that decide to commit such acts, despite the common sense that these are not the kind of experiences that any being would want to go through, and in total disregard of the consequences that one is doing unto another, where these beings will be forever affected by the abuse done. 

This shows that our parenting and education-is-mind-control>education as it currently exists is not effective and requires serious correction, and investigation into the relationships that we’re being taught as children toward what is here, as the animals, nature, other humans, as the relationships that we’re living as, most of which were learned at a young age, by our parents as the primary source of our earliest education, who were raised with the same principles as their parents, and so on through the generations, we’ve been passing on the same acceptances and allowances, and one can simply see by looking at how the world currently exists and what is taking place, that how we are educating ourselves is not effective and is leading to a world full of abuse and suffering, instead of leading to a place that is fun for everyone, where life is supported and cared for, not used and abused to the very detriment of all life here. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to exist as a society that does not educate itself as its children, on how to properly live in this physical reality and care for what is here, as nature, the animals, other humans. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that such events happening as these two cases of animal abuse are an indication that humanity’s accepted nature must be actively changed, and that this means that I as an individual must start the change within myself, into a being that cares for life, and considers life, equally. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize the consequences of accepting the idea/belief that animals are ‘less than’ humans would be that we will then justify the abuse of animals, and thus by living as this belief/idea that animals are less than humans in any way, I am responsible for the abuse that is accepted and allowed to be done to animals all over the world every day. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to accept a society where we’re not taught the importance of the other life forms that exist here with us, as nature and the animals, but rather that they are here for us to exploit and use as we see fit, which leads to us not caring for nature/animals in a way that supports the earth which in turn supports us to live and exist here. 

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to accept parenting to exist where there exists no real support for parent or child in how to effectively live in this world with the other beings that we share the earth with, and within this that there is not provided to every parent adequate and effective training in how to properly educate one’s child to grow and develop into a being that is of benefit to life and not a harm to it. 

 I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see stories about the abuse that goes on in the world and to think ‘gosh, that’s terrible’, and then brush it off and not give it another moment’s consideration, because I’ve accepted my training of not caring about the world and the forms in it and the idea that ‘it’s not my problem’ or ‘there’s nothing I can do about it’ or ‘that’s just the way it is’, without even investigating into what is going on in the world so that I can find out what is causing it, and whether a solution is possible. 

I commit myself to investigating, learning and educating myself on how to properly live in this physical reality and care for what is here, as nature, the animals, other humans, and within this, I commit myself to showing what I have learned as the effective way to exist and coexist with all the other forms in this reality in a way that supports all life. 

I commit myself to realizing that the harmful behavior we participate in is the result of the nature we accept ourselves to exist as, and thus the patterns we’ve accepted ourselves to exist as that are abusive and harm must be stopped, and that these patterns are participated in on an individual level, and thus must be stopped in each and every individual, and within the realization that only self can change oneself, each and every individual must investigate and change oneself and one’s accepted nature, and thus I commit myself to investigating the relationships I live/exist as and stopping any way that cause harm and permit abuse to exist in this world. 

I commit myself to sorting out and stopping any way in which I have lived in separation to/toward what is here, as nature/the animals/other humans, and to consider all equally as we’re all equal in that we are all here as a part of this existence, in the realization that who and what I live as is what I manifest into this world, and thus I commit myself to ensure that who/what I live as is such that will manifest a world without abuse. 

I commit myself to showing the importance of the other forms we exist in this world with as nature and the animals, in order to assist humanity to understand the impact we’re having as the damage we’re causing to our own home, by not taking into consideration the animals and nature and the importance of maintaining a balance in the ecosystem in which we live, so that we can provide the best quality life for all beings including ourselves. 

I commit myself to show how current parenting is resulting in adults with the behaviors that are the cause of the harm that is taking place in the world to nature, the animals and each other, and to show how what’s needed is absolute support and adequate support for each and every parent so that no parent brings a child into this world where that child will be educated to become one that abuse life, and thus I commit myself to doing what it takes to establish an effective system where all parents and children are given the utmost support to become individuals that care for themselves and the world they live in, as that will manifest a world that is best for all. 

I commit myself to realizing my responsibility as a being here that is able to take action, as I am one of the minority that is supported by the current system, and thus have the ability to investigate into what is really going on in the world and how we are causing the abuse that exists and to find possible solutions, and thus I commit myself to doing so, in educating myself to how this world and reality operates and how we create and manifest a world of inequality, within the realization that it is us that create inequality, as there is plenty to go around and we have every capability to ensure that all have what they need, and thus I commit myself to showing that we are the ones that are responsible and thus the solution is to stop allowing abuse of life, and be/become beings that care for life and care for our home here, as it is ourself.

Day 20 - We are The Living Dead

For context watch part 1 of the documentary series The Living Dead & listen to the interview Life Review - the Strategic Soldier

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not consider that the stories of history have been manipulated by the winners in history to make the winners always seem right and good.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see the winner as good/right when there is nothing good/right about war/fighting/competition.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that the stories and mythologies of the past have been and are used to manipulate people based on memories and feelings to spur people to certain actions against one another, where based on something that is seen as positive as ‘pride for one’s country’ one will justify to maim and kill another from another country, even though we are all equal as humans on this earth and ‘country’ is should be just a location as that is what it actually is, not a reason to separate from each other and cause harm to another.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to feel like one ‘belongs to something special’ and thus is ‘special’, because of one’s past as one’s history, irrelevant to who one actually is here now.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that if I could be made to feel ‘special’ based on memories and pictures, that this indicates that I was actually feeling inferior in the first place.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that if I am feeling inferior, that the solution is not in memories and feelings, as those are just experiences and mirages that have nothing to do with who I actually am in reality, and thus memories and feelings cannot make me ‘more’ than who I am here, but can only make me ‘feel’ that way, and thus I delude myself to reality, and to actually face and deal with the feelings of inferiority, which I cause within myself, by judging myself for not living to my fullest potential, instead of simply living to my fullest potential and expanding myself here.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that what goes on in war as the brutal killing of each other, shows that this is not a world of common sense or reason, as it simply does not make sense to be engaged in an activity where we actually are killing another human being, as when we see them lying there dead, we realize that they are the same as me, and I would not want to be killed and suffer that way, so why are we allowing this to exist?

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see or realize that the messages and pictures shown to us in and around war times such as video footage has been constructed in such a way to make one’s own country look like ‘the good guy’ and the other country ‘the bad guy’.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to see how we as individuals do this on a personal level wherein we’ll deliberately lie and manipulate information make ourselves look good in a situation and the other look bad.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that the ‘enemy’ is always made to look bad in order to make one’s own country and what one’s own government/military is doing to not look as bad in comparison.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to ‘bury’ what has happened in the past in order that it can be forgotten, to try to pretend it never happened because I don’t want to face what I have become/have done, and in an attempt to protect my image, when actually the way to ensure that I have the best ‘image’ would be to not waste time trying to control an image of myself, and actually live what it is I want to be perceived as, and thus it wouldn't be an 'image' and I would not be a fake trying to present and live as an image, but a real being with integrity.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not see that to stand for and support ‘my country’ means that I am not standing for and supporting the whole of humanity as one, and thus I am participating in separating ourselves into teams that are in competition with each other.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that human nature is what we accept and allow it to be and thus why/how we are actually able to program humans to enjoy violence and harm, and thus we are responsible for the abuse and harm in the world as we have accepted and allowed ourselves to program ourselves and to enjoy causing harm.

I forgive myself that I have accepted and allowed myself to not realize that there is no winner in war, there is no right side, as the fact that war exists indicates that we are accepting allowing extensive abuse to take place and exist in the world which we all exist in, that any of us could find ourselves on the ‘losing side’ of, and thus to actually win, would mean that no war or abuse exists anywhere.

I commit myself to realizing that war is the result of not considering all ‘sides’ equally, as when one is left out, they must ‘fight for themself’, their ‘right’, their survival, thus, by not considering the other equal to ourself, we create conflict.

I commit myself to see and identify when I am participating in this behavior/mind set where when I ‘perceive’ a threat to my interest, where I feel that ‘I must look out for myself as my interest is not being considered here’ mindset, wherein I’m seeing the other person as only considering themself, and thus fear that I will be taken advantage of if I don’t ‘stand up and fight for my own interest’, and stopping participation. 

I commit myself to realizing that when we stick to practicality in doing what is best for all in any given situation, there is nothing to fear, nothing to defend, as when a decision requires to be made, you simply look at the situation and see what the best solution is for all, and implement that solution, and within this you are considered equally to everyone else, thus you will not be compromised nor will you compromise anyone.