We were woken up in the middle of the
night- a neighbor’s field was on fire and the guys were being asked to go help
put it out. So as a girl I was not being asked to go along. A picture, as a
‘negative’ thought, popped up in my mind where I stayed home, and they come
back talking about how fun it was and then I’ll feel like I really missed out
and be really disappointed that I didn’t go. And then the ‘positive’ thought
came up of if I went along, and in the picture I was experiencing myself as
having a fun and exciting time. So here is the initial negative thought, and
the following positive thought that hooks you in to believing this perception
of reality, accepting the thoughts as valid, where you’ll then act according to
the thoughts.
So the moment after I had the trigger
thought come up, I then experienced a strong urge to go with them, and the
backchat was like ‘if I don’t go, I’m going to miss out on a fun time, a fun
experience, and then I will regret it’. In this moment, because I have been
assisting and supporting myself in getting an understanding of how character
creation and activation works, I saw that this was a character that was being
activated and I could see the thought that activated it, and that the thought
is really only a thought and not reality, and thus that I was actually
manipulating myself with a thought.
I experienced an anxiety and an urgency
that in past experiences I have actually acted on in moments, where I felt like
‘oh man, if I don’t go do this I am really going to regret it, and I’m going to
miss a great time, that I can have as a memory that I can add to my collection
of memories that I hold onto as ‘who I am’ to feel like I ‘am somebody’ because
I have apparently ‘lived’. When it only shows that who I am accepting myself to
be is not life but is memories if I am busy holding onto memories and believing
that my memories make me who I am, instead of being here actually living.
So then I would actually go and do the thing,
whatever it was, just out of this fear of missing out, like for example going
out clubbing with some friends, where when I would be invited to go out
clubbing, or when the idea was proposed, I would picture myself there having
such an awesome time, and I didn’t want to miss-out on that awesome time, so I
would just immediately agree to go if I was able to.
However, since the thought as the picture
of me having a really good time there, was really only just a thought and not
reality, reality did not always go as I had pictured it. What I really didn’t
want to miss-out on was how I thought I would experience myself in such
situation, it wasn’t the physical event that I actually cared about or wanted
to have, but how I would feel, like that I would feel like I am ‘cool’ and
‘superior’. So when I’d actually be in the situation, I’d then be convincing
myself in my backchat/internal conversations that ‘yeah, I am having a really
great time, and man I feel so cool for being in this special place with this
special music and special decorations all for me to be here and feel like I am
special for being here. Not considering/realizing that it is all staged exactly
for that purpose, to assist me in concocting an energetic experience within
myself, and thus not an actual real experience, but a made-up one, just a
fantasy in my mind.
So within this, the irony is that what it
is that I fear to miss as the ‘I don’t want to miss-out’ character, is the
experience as how I’ll feel, which I create myself anyway. I am the one that is
creating the experience to apparently be something ‘special’ that I ‘don’t want
to miss-out on’, and thus I am creating and trapping myself within my own
polarity cycle of ‘I don’t want to miss out on the fun I’ll have there’ and
then while I’m there, telling myself ‘Oh man, I am having so much fun’ as, I
must be having so much fun, as I imagined I would, and I came here just for
that purpose, because I believed that it would be fun, so now I must convince
myself that it is, otherwise I will realize that there wasn’t anything really
to miss-out on, and then won’t have this excuse to generate this energy and
‘fun-time’ experience.
Thus, within this not realizing that I am
the one that created the belief that such event is going to be fun, and then
become my own self-fulfilling prophecy within ‘making it’ be true by then
hyping up the experience and convincing myself in my backchat/internal
conversation that ‘I really am having so much fun, and so it really was worth
it to go, as otherwise I would have missed-out on ‘all this’ as the experience
that I’m having that I’m actually creating within myself, so that the next time
the thought comes up, I will again immediately have the urge to go, and will
act on it, and thus become an effective slave to my mind as a pattern cycling
over and over again. Where, when I participate in this character, I am not even
considering what I would actually like to do in the moment, and in fact, am not
even able to consider what I like, as the energy of the desire to go takes
over, and I get caught in the polarity game, of ‘Oh man, I should go or I might
miss out on a really fun time, but well, maybe I don’t really want to go, maybe
it won’t be that much fun and then I will regret going, so what do I do??’.
