Day 221: Alcohol: Where Does Your Responsibility Go When You're Drunk?

Here's a google hangout with a ton of support and assistance for anyone who is addicted to alcohol: What They Didn't Tell You about Alcohol Addiction.
I definitely suggest to check it out. It covers a lot of important points related to alcohol consumption/addiction that you don't want to miss.

When we drink, a big reason for that is to drink away our responsibilities, to not have a care in the world, to be 'free' for a moment from whatever is bothering us about our lives that we don't know how to fix or deal with.

One thing I never questioned, was when I was drinking away my responsibility, where did it go? Did it just vanish into nowhere for a moment, without any consequence, like I would have liked to believe? Or was it simply that all I was doing was not actually escaping from my responsibilities, but was just putting blinders on so that I couldn't see it for a moment?

Working jobs in the service industry has also helped me to see and realize this point, where you have to occasionally interact with inebriated individuals, who can't really effectively interact or communicate, and it's like you have to baby-sit, in a way, and take responsibility for them, because they can't.

And so, that's how I started to realize where one's responsibility actually goes, some of it goes directly onto those around you who you interact with. And some of it also goes indirectly to others, through the consequences one creates, while not really being here and being responsible. One extreme case of this would obviously be those who are harmed or killed in car accidents due to someone driving drunk. I mean, that's a pretty obvious case where you can see and consider the effects that would have on all involved, not just those directly injured, but their families and friends and so on.

Another example is where we have big festivals or concerts where there is lots of drinking and probably also consumption of various other substances, and the aftermath is often a sea of garbage left behind for others to clean up.

And all the laboring of doctors and nurses who care for all the various injuries that come about as a result of alcohol consumption, such as the cars accidents, brawls, domestic violence, etc. Where all of that labor could obviously go to treating other things that aren't the result of the deliberate choice to forgo one's responsibility and basic motor skills functioning.

Within all this, it is never the alcohol that is to blame, it's just the tool we use to act out the decision to avoid our responsibility for a moment and disregard the consequences that we'll create, that not only affects others but ourselves as well, as it never leads to solutions for anything we're facing in our life, that we are trying to escape from. There are much less consequential ways to approach our living, to make it so our lives are something we wold not want to 'get away' from by intoxicating ourself.

I found it such a relief eventually to no longer feel like I needed or wanted alcohol to do something for me, where I found and established a self-stability where I don't 'require' a substance to for example 'relax' or change my experience in some way, because I'm fine being here as myself and facing reality head on, where inebriation would actually be quite a hindrance and waste of my time here, of which you only get so much.

So I'd suggest to make the time you have here count. And, to realize that in this you're not alone, there is support to walk through this every step of the way, which you can find here unconditionally at the Desteni forum, for not just stopping alcohol addiction, but any addiction, when you are ready to take yourself back and live for you. It's up to You.

I also suggest to take the Free DIP Lite course to learn essential life skills, that provide a solid foundation for facing life's problems in a practical and self-supportive way.

Related Interviews for further perspective and support on Alcohol consumption:
Alcohol Poisoning Death Research parts 1-3:
These interviews give awesome description of what exactly happens to the body when we drink alcohol.

Words, Behavior, Alcohol Life Review:
In this interview you get a first hand account of someone addicted to alcohol and how they diminished themself to the point where they had almost no personality beyond when drinking/being drunk.

Words, Behavior, Alcohol Death Research parts 1-4:
These interviews go into a deeper level explaining how it's really who we are in our relationship to our words and behavior that creates consequence and sometimes ultimately our death.
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Day 220: Does Your Body Like What You Eat?

We have a lot of strange relationships to the food we eat. And the food we don't eat. In this recent google hangout Is it Possible to be Addicted to Eating Healthy?, perspectives are shared from individuals about various food/health addictions, including June, who had spent years being vegan and a raw foodist and even experimenting with 'breatharianism' – the idea that you can survive almost entirely off of air alone.

Now, in simplicity, food is nourishment for the body, but we've gone and complicated or warped this, through developing some strange relationships to food. So, when we take a step back and look at what are the underlying motives for how and what we eat or don't eat, that is where we find the relationships that were the starting point of our decisions. So, like in the google hangout, when June investigated her starting point for having become vegan, for example, what she found was that that decision was actually based in fear, because she'd seen and heard information that said that eating animals is 'bad' and the people who were proponents of various healthy diets looked so 'healthy' and 'glowing' that she wanted to stop eating animals out of fear and the desire to look good and healthy too.

In my life, I also went through some similar relationships to food just in a lesser degree. I went through a brief time of trying to be vegetarian, and a time of experimenting with raw foods, and 'organic' foods. And I found the same thing within my starting point, was that it was actually fear based, based on videos I had watched which said that eating meat was bad for you, or that eating organic foods or raw foods was good for you.

What's interesting about ideas or diet mentalities such as 'veganism' and vegetarianism' or 'raw foodism', is how we can live these as a 'lifestyle', where it becomes like a self definition of 'who we are', where it's based on the information one has come across and the presentation of a certain diet, and it's like we thought 'yeah that sounds so right', and then from there, we decide to try and put ourself and our body into this diet idea. Which is, interestingly, quite backwards, because what we're doing is trying to impose an idea onto our physical that sounded good to us, but yet we really actually have very little effective understanding of how our body functions and operates in any kind of detail. When really you've got to cross-reference things with the physical, and observe the actual physical feedback. The physical body is a complex thing, and diets tend to be presented as 'absolutes', as if the information applies to everyone/will work for everyone, yet there's no way they can take into account each and every person's individual human body, which aren't all exactly the same.

What's so often missing from the information presented out there, is that point of cross-referencing/testing the information for yourself, to see if it actually works for you. And on top of that, what's taken for granted is if one has been eating a certain way for a long time, if you make sudden dramatic changes to your diet it can be quite problematic, and the feedback you get will not be so accurate while the body is going through such extreme changes, until it manages to finally balance things out. So, that is a very important point to take into consideration, that I hardly ever see mentioned/discussed by proponents of various diets.

Like as June mentioned in the google hangout about her experiences with fasting in trying to live the idea of breatharianism, we tend to even ignore the suffering that we are putting our own physical body through. Breatharianism is really a great example of all of this because it is so extreme, and therefore seems a little more obvious, because we really do need food to live and function. So from looking at that example, we can use that to see what we are doing when we take an idea and try to live it, and disregard the actual physical needs or what is actually best for the physical, or even the state of the physical based on it's entire history/life and what it has been through/exposed to or conditions that it has developed, which can all effect how and with what the body requires to be nourished now.

So we'll go up to here for now, and in the next post, I'll continue and share about how, with the tools provided in DIP, I sorted out the relationships I was living toward food/eating to take a more holistic and supportive approach with food as nourishment.
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