Chocolate is a food, but we’ve created a relationship toward
it in separation and judgment, where we learned that there is something ‘wrong’
or something ‘naughty’ about eating chocolate, because that’s how it was
presented to us by our parents and other examples in our lives, where it was
presented as something ‘special’, like a ‘naughty pleasure’, like for instance
in the movie “Chocolat” which is set in the past before chocolate was such a
commonplace thing, and this couple opens up a chocolate shop in a small town,
and it’s presented as this sensuous erotic pleasure, and the townspeople react
in fear and judgment and think that the chocolate is evil and that it’s sinful
to eat it. This is the relationship that we still exist as toward chocolate
today. You can just watch a commercial on television for chocolate and it’s
presented as something to ‘indulge oneself’ with, like a ‘guilty pleasure’, and
chocolate is often loaded with sugar, so that you’ll get addicted to the sugar,
and then it’s not about the chocolate at all, but about getting that sugar fix
that your body has gotten used to.
This character came up as a defense mechanism in a situation
in order to distract me from looking at my relationship toward, in this case,
chocolate. So I can see there is an underlying main character at play here,
which comes up where I perceive a relationship I am living as is being
threatened, in this case my relationship toward chocolate, where in a moment
that I perceived another as judging chocolate as something ‘wrong/bad’ to eat,
I went into this defense character of ‘There’s Nothing Wrong with That’, the
purpose of which is to simply distract me from looking at what my actual relationship
is that I’m living toward ‘that’, by perceiving the other as the one judging
it, and thus focusing on the other instead of self. So, that is another
character we’ll take on to come, and here we’ll walk this relationship to
chocolate, to clear that up for myself, so that I can live how I’d really
actually like to live, in this case in my relationship toward chocolate, which
is to live the common sense that chocolate is a food that supports my body when
eating in a balanced way and not abused through eating as the mind.
So within turning this perception of another back round to
myself to see how/where I may have lived as this relationship of judgment
toward chocolate, what I realized is that I’ve actually been living the
judgment of ‘chocolate is bad’ within myself, my words, and my actions, by
feeling like/fearing that I am doing something wrong, or that I am going to be
judged for eating chocolate. And that within that, what was actually behind the
fear of judgment was that I haven’t been sticking to common sense in eating
chocolate in a way that is supportive to my physical and not abusive, where I’ve
allowed myself to eat chocolate that has a lot of sugar in it which when I
consume a lot puts a lot of stress on my body, because I ‘wanted to eat
chocolate’, where within this, I had to ignore the fact that what I was really
eating was very sugary chocolate that is not going to support my body if I eat
as much as I’d like, and thus I allowed myself to justify/make excuses to eat
more than I should, wherein the thought as a picture of me eating more
chocolate and enjoying it would come up, and even though I realized that I
shouldn’t have any more, I’d convince myself through participating in backchat
of ‘but I really would like to be eating chocolate right now’ and then allowed
myself to give in, even though I ‘knew better’ that I am putting too much sugar
in my body and there will be consequence.
Thus, I have not been living the fact that chocolate is a
food, and have been participating in and creating our relationship of judgment
and separation toward chocolate, as I have participated in/accepted and allowed
that judgment and separation to exist within myself, and to live it in my
words/actions.
So, me seeing this judgment in another, and asking within
myself ‘why don’t you see it’s just a food’ is really me asking myself that
very question. And this is how, that which we see in another person is giving
us a perfect opportunity to see how/where self has/is participating in/living
as the same thing, and thus giving self the key to finding the exact way that
one is responsible for creating what is here, so that one can directly stop the
behavior that cause the separation through correcting the relationships one
live as, so one can live here free of judgment by finding all the ways that
self has separated oneself from what is here through relationships of judgment
and assisting and supporting self to no longer live as those relationships in
one’s daily life, in each and every moment. And when each and every individual
has done this, walked this process of clearing one’s relationships to what is
here, then judgment and separation will no longer exist and neither will the
consequences that come from us as humanity living such relationships.
Thus, this experience gave me the opportunity to see the
relationship I’ve been living toward chocolate, so I can correct my relationship
toward chocolate to one where I live the common sense that chocolate is a food
that can support my body, when eaten in a balanced way, and not harm myself as
my physical by eating from the mind, within beliefs/ideas that one is somehow ‘gettingmore’ as a ‘positive experience’ from
the food than simply adequate nutrition for one’s human physical body. Suggest
to watch the documentaries The Century of the Self and Psywar to see how
advertising has been utilized as a form of brainwashing where we’re taught to
think that things can ‘do more’ for us than the simple practical use, this was
done in order to be able to convince us to buy more than we actually need,
which has led to extensive consequences as can be seen by the damage being done
to our home the earth due to our overconsumption, in the ‘pursuit of happiness’
through buying stuff. Wherein, we think we can get ‘positive experiences’ from
the things we buy, not realizing that we are the creators of the positive
feelings within ourself.
In the next post I’ll walk the Self Forgiveness in
deconstructing the “There’s Nothing Wrong with Eating Chocolate” Character.
cool Kelly!
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